Love

If there is a manual about how to be a gentle person you clearly need to visit Vietnam to understand it. I’ve just returned from Vietnam, where I encountered the gentlest, most respectful culture I have ever met. I thought, this is the world we all wish to see. This is how the world could be, if each one of us could develop this kind of gentleness. ​ Being a more gentle person begins with me. In Hanoi, they have no traffic laws whatsoever, and traffic lights are rare. The

If someone says something hurtful to you during a holiday gathering, there are 3 powerful strategies you can choose from to stop bad karma from building:

If you find yourself crumbling under the weight of constant criticism, there are essential perspectives to consider before you respond, and six approaches you could choose to respond in the most constructive manner possible.

Here’s a useful way to unpack the different aspects of communication to ensure you’re not getting your wires crossed. These ideas will help prevent communication blockages in the first place, and help you resolve miscommunications that have already happened.

In the month of Valentine's Day, there's plenty of inspiration about how we express love to someone special. But being a loving person extends way beyond that. We all like to believe we're compassionate, kind and loving people. How can we tell? Aside from popular, meaningless quizzes, that is. Here's another thought: if you want to attract love into your life, you need to begin by being a loving person yourself.

To ensure your relationships (including friendships for that matter) continue to thrive, you need to review if your mutual needs are being met. In much the same way as you review your career, personal or health progress to ensure success, why not do a ‘health check’ of your relationships?​

Do you have the courage to break up in the right way? Do you even know what the ‘right’ way is? There are specific steps you can take to minimise the risk of breaking up in the first place, and minimise heart-breaks if there is hope of saving the relationship.

At Christmas time we are often thrown together with people we don’t especially like, or worse, with whom we’ve fallen out. General advice tells you to forgive, to be loving…not necessarily easy, nor appropriate. So what other options do you have?

We all want to be trusted. If you don't have faith in people, how can you learn to trust?​

I don’t feel like telling him I love him if I don’t feel it after we’ve had an argument. So we’re going round in horrible circles and it’s getting worse. What can I do?

There are many different ways to assess people. Thinking of potential partners as fruits is an amusing, yet very clear way to figure out which one your intended partner is.

It's too easy for us to make mistakes in important relationships. Perhaps we confuse infatuation and physical attraction with love. We believe that if we ‘fall in love’, the rest will fall into place.​

The post Charlie Chaplin – As I Began To Love Myself – Self Love Poem appeared first on The Unbounded Spirit.​

If you want to attract love in your life, be it through a partner, loving friends or family, you need to be a loving person yourself. Only love attracts a loving vibration.

Kissing and hugging your family and close friends is very different from the more formal air-kisses we give others. In a general context, one argument is that if you air-kiss and hug everyone indiscriminately, it leaves nothing special you can do to indicate you like and value someone.

Many of us begin with good intentions that somehow fade as the year progresses. It might work better for you if you focus on the things you want to STOP doing.​

Found these comments in an old email I received a long time ago - Unfortunately, author is unknown but they are quite funny - not to be taken seriously!​

Whether we’re dealing with kids, who haven’t yet matured, or kidults, who are taking their jolly time maturing, (that’s most of us, by the way…) the steps to correcting unpleasant behaviour are the same.​

I’m very close to my current partner, who has started talking about us living together and even getting married. I’m so excited about this. He’s really right for me. The trouble is, I was married before, and my former husband keeps popping into my mind. Does that mean I still love him? Does it mean I’m not ready to move on? I need to know so I don’t ruin this chance I have to be with the most amazing man, who knows nothing of my turmoil.

A common source of hurt in relationships is feeling unloved. It could be simply because you’re just not speaking the right language. Intimate relationships go through classic phases. First, there’s the auditioning phase, when we’re on our best behaviour because we want to impress. We’re paying close attention to our loved one as we get to know them. It may take as long as a full year or more, depending on how often we see each other, to decide ‘this is the one for me’.